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August 14, 1977 - February 28, 2000

I did not have the privilege of knowing Brian, but his accident and untimely death deepenly saddened me. I work at Corning Inc in the IT division also and am very sad to see that Brian's career at Corning ended this way. I am sure he would have been a great asset to Corning.
I am truly amazed at all the many good things that people mentioned about Brian Grogan in his 22 years of life. I am just recovering from a car accident myself on March 3rd, but was very fortunate to survive it. I remember looking up at the stars the night of my accident and thanking God that I was alive. I am not sure why he took Brian and not me. It makes me wonder. As a few people mentioned in their comments, I guess he needed another good soldier.
I have been spending many days wondering what people would have said if I had died that night. I would be truly honored to have the comments many people mentioned about Brian. There are many good lessons I picked up in the comments and will try to learn from them during my "lucky" 2nd chance in life. I will try to live some of my remaining life for Brian. I wish I could have met Brian. My heart goes out to all that knew Brian and are suffering through his loss.
Larry Moon <MoonLE@corning.com>
Elkland, PA USA - Monday, March 13, 2000 at 11:46:54 (EST)

I think I can honestly say that I've never met anyone as devoted to what he believes in as Brian Grogan. I am certain that the loss I feel is reflected a thousandfold by the multitude of others whose lives he has touched.
Brian, you will be missed.
Ted Hekman <thekman@webtonetech.com>
Atlanta, GA USA - Monday, March 13, 2000 at 11:46:54 (EST)

I would like to thank all of the wonderful people who knew Brian and loved him like a brother. I was never lucky enough to have a real brother of my own, but Brian and Scott were the closest thing to it and it couldn't have made me happier.
I knew Brian for 22 short years and if you would have asked me 2 months ago I might have told you it was 22 long ones. I had the pleasure of being Brian's cousin. We grew up together, and though we might not have been siblings you never would have been able to tell.
I remember all the fights and hair pulling and I guess until now I always took having Brian for granted. I've read all the wonderful things that people said about Brian and I now see what he was to everyone else and now know what a "real" loss this will be. It won't only be not getting to see and talk to him anymore, but I won't have him to tell me what it is that I've done or am doing wrong. He really was a great guy, and not the paon in the butt he seemed sometimes.
So to all of you who lost a friend, and all of us who lost a piece of our hearts, and to Kathryn, who lost love , always remember the good times, and never look back. Move forward with your head held high because Brian would want it that way. Oh and don't forget to raise that glass and throw that toast because who knows if they have beer in heaven.
To my little cousin, I'll love you always and until we meet again, I wouldn't mind if you looked out for us every once and awhile.
Eternally yours
Kimmy

Kim Bosetti
USA - Tuesday, March 07, 2000 at 20:39:45 (EST)

I would like to thank everyone for all of their love and support through our families roughest times. You all are wonderful people and I can see why Brian surrounded himself with people like you. There really aren't the right words to say how I feel, but I ran across this and thought you all would like to hear it because Brian was an angel in my life as I am sure in alot of your lives also.
It's titled "If You Come Across an Angel" Everyday, in the world around us, real-life angels are doing the things they do.. and bringing smiles to the world around them.. Real-life angels build bridges instead of walls. They don't play hide-and-seek with the truth, and they don't have hidden agendas. They tend to be the only ones who understand what you're going through. If they sense that you're hurting, they do whatever they can to help you. Real-life angels understand difficulties and always give the benefit of the doubt. They don't hold others up to the standards they can't live by themselves. Real-life angels are what "inner beauty" is all about. Real-life angels don't hold things against you; the only thing they hold.. is you. They take your hand in theirs when you could use a little reassurance. They walk beside you when you could do with a little guidance and direction in your life. And they support you in your attempts to do what is right. Real-life angels multiply your smiles and add to your integrity. They make you feel like, "Hey, I really am somebody who matters." Then they quietly prove to you how beautiful and true that feeling really is. If you come across and angel like this as I did with Brian, then you are one of the luckiest people of all. If someone in your life is wonderfully like an angel to you, it's important to let them know. It's the nicest compliment you could ever give.. in all the days of your life and in all the years that you live. And I want to thank Brian for being my Real-life Angel. I am not really sure how you thank someone for being so wonderful and for touching so many in such a short time. You sometimes call them, or you send a letter or a card for that matter, but how do you thank a real-life angel who has done so much, but now is gone? You can write, you can call out to them, you give them your all, and sometimes I guess you just wing it. But if there is something to make me or even any of you feel better I think it would be this: On every step we take on our journeys, all of Brians inner strength, ability, and wisdom will walk along beside each of us, helping to carry us over any roough spots. And we always have the memories of the best times of our lives spent with him. And he'll be there for every new memory each of us make in our lives to come. Brian I love you and Miss you so much. I will always hold you close to my heart and I will never forget you! Love you always, your cousin Lori.
Lori Zibreg <harshmand@qvsd.org>
Library,PA, USA - Tuesday, March 07, 2000 at 11:35:01 (EST)

As a brother of the Zeta Beta chapter, I send out my deepest sympathies to Brian's family, brothers and loved ones.

"...and when great souls die,
After a period peace blooms,
Slowly and always
Irregularly. Spaces fill
With a kind of
Soothing electric vibration.
Our senses, restored, never
To be the same, whisper to us.
They existed, they existed.
We can be. Be and be
Better. For they existed."

-Maya Angelou
Scott Wiliford <wiliford@hotmail.com>
Adrian, MI USA - Monday, March 06, 2000 at 19:05:38 (EST)

Thank you all for your love and support through this terrible ordeal. You can't begin to know how wonderful it was to see those of you who could come show the love and respect you had for Brian. We always knew he was a special person, but we never realized how special until we saw the outpouring of grief from all those he had known in his short life. You are an exceptional group of young adults and as Brian had touched your lives be assured you had touched his and all of his family. We wish you all a happy, healthy and prosperous future in all you do. Take care, be careful and keep the faith. We will all be together again with Brian in a world much better than the one we know. Always, Brian's Aunt Donna
Donna Harshman <harshmand@qvsd.org>
Library, PA USA - Monday, March 06, 2000 at 16:27:02 (EST)

Brian, As a fellow Carr groupie and a friend in God, I send you my greatest love and pray that you have found pure happiness in your new relationship with God in Heaven above. The Lord has His funny ways of loving us all! May God Bless you and those touched by your love. Pierce
Matt Pierce <DieselMP@webtv.net>
Pittsburgh, Pa USA - Monday, March 06, 2000 at 16:00:04 (EST)

It's taken me a long time to actually write something, because I still don't want to believe this all has happened. This has been difficult for me because I never got to say all the things I wanted to tell him. My friend sent this to me and I sought comfort in these words and I hope you all will too.
When trouble comes, we often say,
"Why did this have to be?"
But blessings come in many ways
that sometime we can't see.

Everything that happens
is part of God's eternal plan.
Today what seems a mystery
in time we'll understand.

Remember prayers are with you
to give you strength today.
Call on those of us who love you
to share with you along the way.

I'll never forget Brian, he touched me in a special way and I was lucky enough to experience his friendship and love. I'll never forget the fun times I spent with him. My sympathies go out to the Grogan's and Kathryn. All my love, Robyn
Robyn Nicoll <nicollr@alleg.edu>
Meadville, PA USA - Monday, March 06, 2000 at 15:02:05 (EST)

Spending the past few days saying goodbye to Grogan and seeing the pain and sense of loss in everyone that loved him was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. My faith is the only thing that allows me to deal with this, the funny thing is that what my faith is today was greatly influenced by Grogan. Although I may never understand why his life had to be cut so short I can only hope that I can accomplish all that he has in my lifetime. Grogan never hesitated to share his faith, lend a helping hand, listen to someone's concerns, or just love all those he encountered. I am thankful that our paths crossed for the time that they did, that is a blessing in itself. Grogans'and Kathryn my thoughts and prayers are with you. Grogan...until we meet again.
Kathy Conley <conleyk13@hotmail.com>
Pittsburgh, PA USA - Monday, March 06, 2000 at 15:00:21 (EST)

I am a Brother at the Zeta Beta chapter, and I just want to send my deepest smypathy to the chapter and to all of Brian's friends and family. Everyone here will keep you all in our prayers.
Jason Kotas <jkotas@adrian.edu>
Adrian , MI USA - Monday, March 06, 2000 at 10:52:19 (EST)

Thank you, Grogan for blessing me with your light.
Love,
Mandy
These are not my words, but they speak volumes from my heart...

Well, God,
I made it through another sweet-sour time, and here I am, nibbled, frazzled,
puzzled, awed, and in need of ... of what?
A chuckle, maybe, a revolution begun with a belly laugh, a Bronx cheer in the face of the onslaughts of disaster and death itself.

Such is my need;
and this is my wonder:
Are you really as humorless, as grimly serious as I have made you out to be?
Or do aardvarks and monkeys, bull frogs and platypuses, puppies and porpoises,
and people, perhaps, reveal the comic side of your grace, the playful side of your love?
Tickle me into giggling down the wailing walls of my endless grievances,
and trip up my waddling pomposities.

Lord of laughter, as of tears, shake me awake and teach me to laugh at myself,
at my black-draped solemnity, over my petty preoccupation with success and failure, through all the hurt and adversity until my laughter lures me deep beneath the terrors without names,
beneath the questions without answers,
beneath the pain without relief;
lures me deep to the love in me unused,
to the strength unspent, to the courage untapped, to the dream unrisked,
to the beauty unexpressed; all the way down to the inescapable bottom,
to the awareness that I must get on
with being who I am as fully as I can,
as unflinchingly as I can, as accurately as I can, which is to say,
as gracefully, as powerfully,
as faithfully as you have created me to be.
Mandy Thompson <manderella@usa.net>
Alexandria, VA USA - Monday, March 06, 2000 at 09:17:09 (EST)

"So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they're busy doing things they think are important. This is because they're chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning."
~Morrie Schwartz

I can't think of a better example of this than you, Brian. You were the best at loving others, giving back to the community, and creating something special. That something special was you - who you were and what you stood for - and I don't know if you ever knew that. But I did. And so did everyone else who ever knew you. You were something special....

Life is short. Yours was too short. But you lived life to the fullest; you loved, you smiled, you laughed, you cried - you did it right. I only hope I can follow in your footsteps.
Psalm 116:15 says, "Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of His saints". Yeah, you were one of His saints, Brian. You still are.
Smile down on us. Laugh with us when we laugh. Comfort us when we cry. Know that we will be thinking about you, and our memories of you will never die.
Until we meet again in a better place, good-bye my brother. Have peace, and save me a seat....
Love and Respect, forever and ever,
Chris

"I've seen fire, and I've seen rain.
I've seen sunny days that I thought would never end.
I've seen lonely times when I could not find a friend.
But I always thought that I'd see you again."
~James Taylor
Chris Hilf '00 <hilfc@alleg.edu>
Meadville, Pa USA - Sunday, March 05, 2000 at 21:11:45 (EST)

When I sit back and think about Grogan and of the memories, I do not know where to begin. But, one memory of Brian that I will never forget is one of the last times we spoke at depth. Many of us had gotten together at a place in the Stip District of Pittsburgh. Brian and I walked out together because he was leaving to see Kathryn the next morning and I had to work. As we slowly walked in different directions, Brian yelled down the street, "Tell your parents Merry Christmas and send my love to Beth (my fiance)." I will never foget that because one of the last times we spoke, he was thinking about someone else and not himself. That was one of Brian's greatest attributes.

Brian taught me a great deal about Theta Chi, leadership, and most importantly friendship. He taught me that at times the best decisions do not follow a set of rules, but they come from your heart. Brian was a great man. I consider myself honored to have known Brian.

I have never been an advocate of the term "passed away". I prefer to use the term "passed on" because that is what has happened. Brian has taken the step into the next stage of his life, he is passing on. In years to come we will be sitting beside him complaining about the Steelers and singing Garth Brooks songs. Brian, we all love you.

I extend my deepest sympathies to the Grogans, Kathryn and the Lambs, the Brothers of Theta Chi, and the rest of Brian's family and friends.
Sincerely,
Luellen

Mark Luellen <luellem@alleg.edu>
Meadville, PA USA - Sunday, March 05, 2000 at 16:33:55 (EST)

My deepest prayers and wishes go out to the Grogan's, Kathryn and Family, and anyone who ever had the opportunity to learn who Brian Grogan was and still is. A better friend with a stronger sense of faith and friendship I will probably never know.
If you met Grogs, you were impressed by his courage and attitude.
If you bonded with him, you were inspired.

I cannot express how much he is missed. I look accross my hallway, and half expect to see him walk out with that sly look on his face and that Nike hat pearched way above his forhead. All I can say, is we love you Gorgan and here is a little something that a friend passed on to me:

'For what is it to die, but to stand naked in the wind and to melt into the sun?
And what is it to cease breathing, but to free the breath from its restless tides, that it may rise and expand and seek God unencumbered?

Only when you drink from the river of silence shall you indeed sing.
And when you have reached the mountain top, then you shall begin to climb.
And when the earth shal claim your limbs, then shall you truly dance"

Love and Respect,
Michael Wilson
Michael Wilson <wilsonm@alleg.edu>
Mentor, OH USA - Sunday, March 05, 2000 at 14:24:20 (EST)

Dear all, especially the Family, Kathryn, and our Brothers,

To put it simply, there are no words I can say . . . but I'll try anyway. Brian was one of my most trusted friends and I valued his opinion very, very highly. It was truly and honor to know him and have him in that group of people close to me.
Our loss is felt most deeply - there is a part of my heart that died with Brian. There is also a part of me that allows Brian to live on forever - the wonderful memories that I (and we all) have about him that will never die.
Love and respect to you, Brother Grogan. You are missed.

Sincerely,
Mark Fenner
Brother and fellow Computer Scientist
Mark Fenner <fenner@cs.pitt.edu>
Pittsburgh, PA USA - Sunday, March 05, 2000 at 10:39:43 (EST)

i remember meeting grogan last year, before i was even a student at allegheny, and he struck me instantly as being an amazing guy. being a student here now, i would see him occasionally when he came to visit...it would be a nice surprise to see his car in the parking lot of the house, and i'd think "grogan's here!". the hardest thing is that i won't see that car anymore. the only solace i can find right now is in what walther said--God needed another soldier. as always, my thoughts and prayers are with the Grogan family and the brothers of Theta Chi. love you all.
Lesley Holot <holotl@alleg.edu>
Meadville, PA USA - Sunday, March 05, 2000 at 02:54:55 (EST)

~TOGETHERNESS ~
Death is nothing at all--I have only slipped away into the next room. Whatever we were to each other, that we are still. Call me by my old familiar name, speak to me in the easy way which you always used. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.

Play, smile, think of me, pray for me. Let my name be the household word it always was. Let it be spoken without effort. Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was: there is absolutely unbroken continuity. Why should I be out of your mind because I am out of your sight? I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner. All is well.

Nothing is past: nothing is lost. One brief moment and all will be as before-only infinitely happier and forever we will all be on together with Christ.

Meghan Bredahl <bredahm@alleg.edu>
West Orange, NJ USA - Sunday, March 05, 2000 at 01:10:23 (EST)

The third day of my freshman year I met Grogan and since that day my life has never been the same for knowing him. Immediately he helped to shape the person I would become in Allegheny's community. I had once asked him what he preferred to go by, Brian or Grogan? He replied, "There are many Brian's but only one Grogan." How wise beyond his years he was. And so Grogan entered the rest of my life. I have no words of my own to express what it is that I am feeling, but I cling to the precious memories that I have of Grogan. Grogan lived his life with a strength of spirit, like no other, that I hope to emulate throughout my life. Thank you my friend for all that we have done for each other and what you have done for others. You are greatly missed and loved. Love, loyalty, and friendship ~ Bredahl
Meghan Bredahl <bredahm@alleg.edu>
West Orange, NJ USA - Sunday, March 05, 2000 at 00:58:50 (EST)

Grogan, somehow, knew we all could be better individuals if we were to put forth the effort. He saw the very best in us, even at our worst moments. Grogan challenged me to be a better person; to be truthful, honorable, and kind. Though I often fell short of these expectations, knowing that someone believed I could do better was a great inspiration. And the best thing....the best thing was that he didn't have to say a word: you just knew by knowing him, by being around him, that he thought highly of you, and prayed for the very best for you. I find comfort in this now; knowing that Brian believes I can be a better person, knowing that Brian wishes for only the best to come my way. And he believes this, and wishes this for all of us. Take comfort in this.
Always,
Bunnel
Jess Bunnel <DaveBunnel@aol.com>
Pittsburgh, PA USA - Saturday, March 04, 2000 at 01:19:56 (EST)

I know it may be hard to believe, but right now I am at a loss for words. I do not feel that any words of mine could adequatly describe what a wonderful person Brian was or the impact he had on so many of our lives. Brian was such a good role model that I often joked with him saying "Brian, how can you be so good all the time," his reply was "I never do anything that I would not want my children to do." If there were more people like Brian, the world would be a better place. I am sorry that I cannot be with everyone right now but I will be home soon. My deepest sympathy and prayers go out to the Brothers of Theta Chi, Kathryn, and especially to his family. Take comfort in knowing that Brian has touched the lives of so many.
Kim Buchheit
Kim Buchheit <kimbuchheit@hotmail.com>
Pittsburgh, PA USA - Saturday, March 04, 2000 at 00:38:28 (EST)

My sympathy to all the brothers of Theta Chi Fraternity.
I met Brian through my son David C. Veschi and I found why Dave held Brian in high regard May your brotherhood at Allegheny remain as solid as ever especially during these grave times Brian will be in our family's prayers.
David J. Veschi <dveschi@salsgiver>
Creighton, Pa USA - Saturday, March 04, 2000 at 00:30:01 (EST)

Hey Grogan,

I know you are watching out for all of us, cause thats the kind of person you are. We all cherish the impact you had on us while we knew you on campus. I know you will continue to remind us of respect, friendship and love. In the past you made us better people by holding us to higher a standard. Your memory will continue your legacy. I don't need to tell you this but take care of all of us Brian, as you did in the past.

With admiration & respect,

Chief

ps Kathryn and the Grogan family may God and Brian continue to bless you.
Jason R. Owen (Chief) <owenj@alleg.edu>
Meadville, PA USA - Friday, March 03, 2000 at 23:42:07 (EST)

It is hard to believe that a young man could touch so many different lives. That's what made Brian so special. His personality and the way he carried himself was unmatched. Brian has moved on to a better place, but there is no doubt that he's looking down on us. He's doing a good job looking down on his family helping them get through this time of grief. The stregth that the Grogan family has is remarkable, and my prayers go out to them that they can maintain this stength. Brian will stay in the hearts and minds of the people he's touched forever.
Matthew Boehm <boehmm@alleg.edu>
Library, PA USA - Friday, March 03, 2000 at 22:21:42 (EST)

My deepest sympathies are with Brian's entire family, my sister Kathryn, the brothers of Theta Chi and everyone else whose life was touched by Brian. He was just one of those people who we all loved and respected for his kindnesses and strengths. It was such an honor to have known you Grogan, and I look forward to the time we shall meet again. We'll all miss you. Always.. Mia
Mia Gentile <mia_gentile@hotmail.com>
Pittsburgh, PA USA - Friday, March 03, 2000 at 21:15:29 (EST)

I extend the deepest sympathies to the family and friends that Brian unfortunately had to leave behind. As his brotherhood began after my graduation, I did not know him personally, but it is very heartwarming to see how many lives he was able to touch. I have never heard anything about him that was not positively upbeat or absolutely positive. May his soul have eternal peace as he takes his place in the Kingdom of God.
Damion Jones <d-jones@goplay.com>
New York, NY USA - Friday, March 03, 2000 at 17:16:07 (EST)

In an unpredictable world, often filled with negativity, it is the freshest breath of air to come across someone with such radiant positivity. Brian was one of those people. The way he lived his life should be an example to others. As we consider the fragility of life, we must also consider the tremendous possibilities it holds, as Brian did. I will think of him, forever smiling. My thoughts and prayers go out to his family, friends, and brothers. You will be missed.
Beth Winslow <BethieWinz@aol.com>
Rochester, NY USA - Friday, March 03, 2000 at 16:55:37 (EST)

Well, Brian, wherever you are, I hope you got a good chuckle out of my total ineptitude in the use of a computer...
Kevin Troutman <ktroutman@gwater.com>
Carlisle, Pa USA - Friday, March 03, 2000 at 16:37:34 (EST)

Brian Grogan never hesitated to make eye contact with virtual strangers such as myself and say "hello". I only met him once at the Theta Chi house, but he never hesitated to say hi to me . That's how I'll remember Brian- a person who was eternally friendly and outgoing- a good person and an asset to the Allegheny community- and the world. He will be sorely missed, but his friends and family- my thoughts and prayers go out to them- will never forget his impact on their lives in his 22 years.
Kevin Troutman <beegtrout@hotmail.com>
Carlisle, PA USA - Friday, March 03, 2000 at 16:33:56 (EST)

Brian Grogan never hesitated to make eye contact with virtual strangers such as myself and say "hello". I only met him once at the Theta Chi house, but he never hesitated to say hi to me. That's how I'll remember Brian- a person who was eternally friendly and outgoing- a good person and an asset to the Allegheny community- and the world. He will be sorely missed, but his friends and family- my thoughts and prayers go out to them- will never forget his impact on their lives in his 22 years.
Kevin Troutman <ktroutman@gwater.com>
Carlisle, PA USA - Friday, March 03, 2000 at 16:31:50 (EST)

Brian Grogan never hesitated to make eye contact with virtual strangers such as myself and say "hello". I only met him once at the Theta Chi house, but he never hesitated to say hi to me. That's how I'll remember Brian- a person who was eternally friendly and outgoing- a good person and an asset to the Allegheny community- and the world. He will be sorely missed, but his friends and family- my thoughts and prayers go out to them- will never forget his impact on their lives in his 22 years.
Kevin Troutman <ktroutman@gwater.com>
Carlisle, PA USA - Friday, March 03, 2000 at 16:31:21 (EST)

Brian Grogan never hesitated to make eye contact with virtual strangers such as myself and say "hello". I only met him once at the Theta Chi house, but he never hesitated to say hi to me. That's how I'll remember Brian- a person who was eternally friendly and outgoing- a good person and an asset to the Allegheny community- and the world. He will be sorely missed, but his friends and family- my thoughts and prayers go out to them- will never forget his impact on their lives in his 22 years.
Kevin Troutman <ktroutman@gwater.com>
Carlisle, PA USA - Friday, March 03, 2000 at 16:31:08 (EST)

It seems so unreal to me that Grogan is gone. I haven't seen him since the summer, and I still expect to see him appear out of nowhere (or Alden) like he usually did.
I adored Grogan; he was someone who saw the potential in people and wanted them to achieve it.
I laughed with Grogan; he came in our room pretending to hate our tea parties...but always stayed for a cup.
I fought with Grogan; he had this ability to get under my skin.
I respected Grogan; he (as this board demonstrates) captured the hearts of all parts of the campus...he was a true reconcilliator.
I saw God in Grogan; Grogan had a light in him...one that he shined for all.

Grogan wanted to be known and he wanted to be loved. And now he knows he remains both. I will love and remember you for eternity!!!

To his family and Kathryn...My heart goes out to all of you. To Mrs. Grogan, he once told me he didn't know how you put up with him but that you were a saintly woman for doing so. To Mr. Grogan, he admired and loved you and wanted to make you proud...you can be proud. And to Kathryn, he was truly happy and utterly content for the first time maybe ever...in this tragic time, know that your loved shaped Brian.

God bless everyone who feels the tragic effects of this loss!!!

Heather Bailley <taylorhb@yahoo.com>
Wilmington, DE USA - Friday, March 03, 2000 at 15:05:10 (EST)

When I was informed two weeks ago that Brian Grogan had been in a serious car accident, I was shocked, similar to many other people. At that point, I never thought for a moment that Grogan wouldn't survive his injuries. When I received e-mail a few days ago that Brian had passed away, I was stunned to say the least. Since receiving the news this past Wednesday, I have been trying to sort through the many emotions I have been feeling. There are the obvious feelings of sadness, grief, and even anger, but there has been something else eating at me. Today I have finally figured it out ---disappointment in myself. Grogan was an incredible man. I knew him through ACO, Greek Life, as well as simply being a student with him. Grogan had the ability to pull people together, cross over lines that had never been crossed before and to challenge people to think as they never had before. I kick myself because I didn't spend more time really getting to know him and to learn from him when I had the opportunity. Now it is too late. Grogan's legacy will live on forever due to the many qualities he shared with us. He is now with our Creator smiling down on all of us! My prayers are with his family, friends and Kathryn.
Hannah Durrant <hannahdurrant@hotmail.com>
Salzburg, Austria - Friday, March 03, 2000 at 12:22:38 (EST)

Dear Brian and Kathryn, Brian's family and everyone who loved Brian. One of the fun things I got to do with Brian was watch when he and Kathryn were falling in love. Who would have thought that a Geo major and a CS major would fall in love. Kathryn, my heart breaks for you, Brian my prayers go out for you. Love to his family, and sympathy to his brothers. God bless.

Janet Phillips
Meadville, PA USA - Friday, March 03, 2000 at 11:44:38 (EST)

The world needs people like Brian Grogan. His loss leaves a gap that is difficult to understand. Brian lived a life of generosity, warmth, humor, and compassion. My thoughts, prayers, and deepest sympathy are with all who loved him.
Jenny Lindquist, AC Office of Community Service, 1996-99
Jenny Lindquist <jennylindquist@yahoo.com>
Washington, DC USA - Friday, March 03, 2000 at 11:26:45 (EST)

Dear Dick, Pat and Scott. I knew Brian when he was a student and when he worked for Computing Services. I will always remember the positive energy he conveyed first through his engaging smile, and then through his kind, helpful and amiable ways. He was always pleasant and eager to be helpful. I know that he affected a lot of people in a very positive way. I, like so many other members of this community, extend my deepest sympathy to you. Please know that our thoughts are with you. Jacquie Kondrot, AC administrator, Student Affairs.
Jacquie Kondrot <jkondrot@alleg.edu>
Meadville, PA USA - Friday, March 03, 2000 at 10:25:39 (EST)

It doesn't matter how long you knew him, what is obvious is that Brian made a lasting impression on all he met.
What a kind, compassionate, and funny man. I've found comfort in realizing every story I have about Grogan ends in me laughing.
Bless his family and all of us who miss him now.
Ellen Kauffmann <ekauffma@alleg.edu>
Meadville, PA USA - Friday, March 03, 2000 at 10:22:45 (EST)

On behalf of the Grand Chapter and International Headquarters staff of Theta Chi Fraternity, I am extending our deepest sympathies to the Men of Beta Chi chapter, Brian's family and friends, and the Allegheny College community. We grieve with you. Brian was well-known to many of the men and women who work in the Headquarters, and the news of his passing was not easy to provide, or to receive.

Brian was a credit in all ways to our brotherhood. We are much the better for having known him, and we are less for having lost him so soon. May all of us take comfort in the knowledge that Brian improved everthing and everybody with which or whom he contacted. It has been said that each of us cries at birth, and that each of us should try to live our lives in such a way that others cry when we leave this life. There will be many, many tears for Brian.

Sincerely,

David L. Westol, CAE
Executive Director
Theta Chi Fraternity
3330 Founders Road
Indianapolis, IN 46268-1333
Dave Westol <dave@thetachi.org>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Friday, March 03, 2000 at 10:19:22 (EST)

We wish we could hug and thank each of you personally.
Your kind words have eased our pain at this time of sorrow in our lives.
One of the things that made Brian special was that,
he surrounded himself with good people like you.
God has called him home,but he will never be alone.
He will always be with us, and we will forever be with him.
Our family sincerely thanks all of you
for sharing your thoughts and memories
of our son.
May each of you continue your quest in
life with the knowledge that Brian is watching you,
and god is keeping you in his care.

With deepest appreciation,
Dick,Pat, and Scott Grogan
DICK,PAT,AND SCOTT,GROGAN <dickiegee@hotmail.com>
library, pa USA - Friday, March 03, 2000 at 10:05:42 (EST)

I met Brian only once when he was introduced as a new employee to our division. He seemed shy, still getting used to his new surroundings. After reading some of the wonderful and touching messages, I'm sorry I did have more time to get to know him better. My very best to Dick and Pat, as well as Scott - my prayers are with you as they were with Brian.

Cynthia <hillcm@corning.com>
Corning, NY USA - Friday, March 03, 2000 at 10:01:14 (EST)

Unfortunately, I did not get to know Brian personally during the years we had together at Allegheny. However, I do know that he touched many hearts and will be greatly missed. There wasn't a time that I saw him that he was alone. He always had a smile on his face and a friend at his side. He will always be remembered and the countless memories not forgotten. My thoughts and prayers go out to Brian's family, Kathryn, his Theta Chi Brothers and to all others who are grieving the loss of one of Allegheny's finest.
Jim Miller <Islndguy77@aol.com>
Angola, IN USA - Friday, March 03, 2000 at 09:53:36 (EST)

I unfortunately never got the privelege of getting to know Brian. As a recent addtion to Theta Chi, however, I can see that some of the outstanding qualities of Brian have been instilled in the brothers that knew and loved him, and I am sure that his outstanding characteristics will be passed on to myself and many others. My deepest sympathy goes out to Brian's family and friends. Stay strong and Love and Respect.
Jabe Best <bestj@alleg.edu>
Meadville, PA USA - Friday, March 03, 2000 at 02:00:38 (EST)

I only met Brian once, and even though I didn't know him nearly as well as the others who have contributed to this forum, I know that our community here at Allegheny has lost a dear friend. It has been inspirational and uplifting to witness how this campus has come together in such a frustrating and sad time. My regards go out to his family and all who were close to him. Love and respect to all
Dave Seeley <seeleyd@alleg.edu>
Meadville, PA USA - Friday, March 03, 2000 at 01:15:27 (EST)

Brian was my brother and he was the best brother a kid could ever hope for. He was always there, no matter what happened or how much trouble I was in, I could always count on him to help me out. He never asked for anything in return and I knew he never would, that's the kind of person he was. He would give you the shirt of his back if it would make you smile. I always knew he was a great person, but I really never knew how many lives he touched in his short time with. I just want to thank everyone for their thoughts and prayers for my brother and my family. I wish I could thank you all personally.
I can't believe my brother is gone, but I wouldn't trade the time he spent with me for anything in the whole world.
I'm gonna miss you man, you were the best.

Thank You for everything,
Scott
Scott Grogan <head_grogan@hotmail.com>
Library, PA USA - Friday, March 03, 2000 at 00:10:32 (EST)

Brian was the definition of what a Theta Chi brother is. He stood for what is right, did all he could to help others, was a true friend to everyone, was a scholar, a gentleman and a great American. Although the time we all spent with him was short, the impact of his life upon all of ours will always be remembered. Very few stood up for the right, defended the common sense of life and presented reality to us in the way Brother Grogan did.
Know that all our thoughts are with Brother Grogans family, Kathryn the only woman i know who matches his qualities of character, the Brotherhood of Theta Chi and all those many people whose lives have been touched by the life of Brian.
You will always live in my memory as a Brother, a friend and a role model. May God be with us all.
Erick Ochs "Shecky" <paarmyguy@aol.com>
Ft Bragg, NC USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 23:20:44 (EST)

Brian was a grade ahead of me in school,
so I didn't know him well, but he was
always very nice and ever friendly. He
will be missed. My thoughts and prayers
go out to his family and all who knew him.

Melanie Hirt <mah250@psu.edu>
South Park, PA USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 22:55:10 (EST)

It is times like this that make us realize what we take for granted in our lives, and also just how senseless life can be. I remember Grogan for his smile, for picking on me, for giving me advice (that I was often too stubborn to take), for his spirit, and for his compassion for everyone he met. He will live in our hearts. My thoughts and prayers go out to his brothers, Kathryn, and all those he touched during his short time with us. We will all miss you, Grogan.
Paula Kovacs <paulakovacs@hotmail.com>
Alexandria, VA USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 18:03:05 (EST)

Always a hat, always a witty remark, always a smile.
Never too busy, never selfish, never a dull moment.
Always talented, always caring, always a friend.

You're sorely missed and thought of often, Grogan. My heart goes out to Kathryn,
Grogan's family, and his friends. I wish I could be there on Saturday. I'm
thinking of you all.
Taraka Dale <tarakad@hotmail.com>
Boulder, CO USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 17:59:18 (EST)

"Everyone has an
invisible sign
hanging from his
neck saying
"Make me feel
important!"

Brian Grogan was a person who was able to see this invisible sign hanging from everyone's neck.
Brian and I graduated together and it was during out senior year that I got to know him well. There
was not a day that out paths crossed from the day we met until I last saw him that he did not go well out
of his way to not only say hello, but to speak to me. I was blessed with many of these instances during out
senior year at Allegheny. Brian is one of the most sincere, down-to-earth, good-hearted individuals I have met. It is
truly a blessing to have been able to spend the time I did with him. My deepest sympathy goes out to Brian's family, Kathryn,
and all of Brian's friends.
Nadine Mann <mannn@home.com>
Aliquippa, PA USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 17:42:50 (EST)

I do not know how to begin other than by saying that my heart goes out to all of Brian's loved ones. It is a shame that it takes a tragic event such as this to put things into perspective. As many of you have already said in your messages, this has made me realize how important it is to say "I love you" to those we care about when we have the chance. Why put off something so important till tomorrow when there may never be a tomorrow. My deepest sympathy goes out to Brian's family, Brothers, friends, and anyone who was blessed with his presence. Kathryn, my little sister in Alpha Chi, I cannot even begin to try to find the words to console you. Your time with Brian was a blessing from God and I know that he had made such an impact on your life in the time that you spent with him. I know you will NEVER forget him, and I am certain that he will never forget you. I am sure that your special place in heaven is being saved by Brian. You all are in my thoughts and prayers.
Allison Pyewell <pyewell16@hotmail.com>
Pittsburgh, PA USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 17:42:33 (EST)

"Everyone has an
invisible sign
hanging from his
neck saying
Nadine Mann <mannn@home.com>
Aliquippa, PA USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 17:33:56 (EST)

Although I didn't know Brian` to see the impact he had on other's lives makes me realize that there is such a thing as angels here on earth.
Kelly McFeaters <mcfeatk@alleg.edu>
Derry, PA USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 17:04:50 (EST)

As a freshman my time on this campus has been short. My time as a brother had been shorter but I have heard nothing but the best about the great man that God decided he needed. My thoughts and prayers go out to his family, Kathyrn and her family, his friends and all that he was able to effect in his short life. He will always be remembered especially within the Brothers of Theta Chi. "Love and Respect."
Marcus Seeley <seeleya@alleg.edu>
Brunswick, OH USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 16:53:14 (EST)

My thoughts and prayers go out to Brian Grogan's family, Kathryn Lamb and her family, and everyone who knew this great man. I knew Brian because my big sister in Alpha Chi is Kathryn. Before we went to greek functions,Kathryn, Grogan, my boyfriend Jim, and myself, would get together, and we always had a good time. I know how much he means to my big sister, and I want to let her know that I love her very much, and that I will always be there for her.
Amanda Kleese <Akleese@aol.com>
Niles, OH USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 15:55:20 (EST)

It was last year around Thanksgiving that I last saw and spoke to Brian. I ran into him at a nearby mall. I remember that I was in hurry to get somewhere after my shopping and cut the conversation short. I figured that I would catch up with him over the holidays or at Senior Week in the spring. We never caught up over the holidays. I had thought about tracking down his e-mail address and keeping in touch, but never followed through because I was "too tired" or "too busy" when I got home from work. I unfortunately never took the opportunity to tell Brian how I felt about him as a leader, a brother and most importantly as a friend. I can not correct the past and tell Brian how I felt, I missed my chance. I can only make sure that I do not waste my opportunites with other friends by taking these relationships for granted. Grogan was always there to give advice, share views, and teach lessons and it seems only fitting that he taught me one more before he left. He was everything that a brother and friend should be except no longer with us. I will miss you, Grogs. My prayers are with your family and friends. Love and Respect, Cants.
Jon Cantwell <jcantwell6@aol.com>
Pittsburgh, PA USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 15:50:36 (EST)

Brian and I used to ride the same bus since the middle school. And we had many classes together in high school. I can honestly say that Brian was one of the nicest, most polite and generous people I have ever met, even through the "teenage angst" years, when every teen had a chip on their shoulder. His family should be so proud that they had raised a true gentleman. My thoughts and prayers are with his family, friends, and loved ones. May his spirit bless those who helped enrich this great man.
Kelly Yee <k_l_yee@yahoo.com>
Library, PA USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 15:48:35 (EST)

I got to know Brian mostly through his relationship with Kathryn. She is a great friend and I started to realize that Brian must be a great guy if they could get along so well. The one thing I now regret, is that I didn't get to know him better. My thoughts were with Brian, his family, and Kathryn over the past two weeks. Not a day went by when I wouldn't hope for the chance to see Brian and Kathryn together and happy. My heart goes out to Brian's family and Kathryn. I hope he knows how much his life has influenced both those he knew well, and those he only met in passing.
Neal Alexandrowicz <alexann@selway.umt.edu>
Missoula, MT USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 15:05:22 (EST)

I dont know Brian, but had the chance to meet his brother and if there is any similarity between the two, i know he was a great guy. His memories will last a lifetime. My thoughts go out to everyone who touched his precious life.
Stephen Podolak <podolas@alleg.edu>
Meadville, PA USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 15:04:13 (EST)

I only knew Brian for a few months before i graduated from Allegheny. I admit that i did not get to know
him well. After reading what all of you have said about what a wonderful man he was, I am sad that i did
not take the time to know him better. The men of Theta Chi will always hold a special place in my heart.
Please know that my thoughts are with you at this most difficult time. As an active member of the Greek
community, I know first hand what it feels like to loose one of our brothers. My thoughts are also with
Brian's family. These are difficult times. Thank you for bringing Brian to this world and allowing him
to touch the lives of all he knew.
Elise Radina - ADPi
Elise Radina <mer6c3@mizzou.edu>
Columbia, MO USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 14:32:13 (EST)

Brian was one of my best friends at Allegheny. I was blessed to be
given the chance to become so close with him. He taught me so many
things about life, love, and the meaning of true friendship. I have
many special memories of him that I will hold in my heart. My
thoughts and prayers are with his family, Kathryn, the brothers of
Theta Chi and all whose lives were touched by him. May he live on
in the hearts of all who knew him. And Brian, remember that I love
you.
Erin Chapyak <Erin.Chapyak@Compaq.com>
Nashua, NH USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 14:31:30 (EST)

Brian, you exemplified the best of brotherhood, the best of Allegheny, the best of men. Your wit and ever present, welcoming smile graced so many lives, so deeply. Einstein wrote, "a life lived for others is a life worth while." As I reflect on our time together, I can't help but think that this was your personal philosophy. You may not have realized it, but it was obvious to us. That's the beauty. Good-byes are never easy, so until we meet again my brother. Love and respect.

Sooner or later that which is now life shall be poetry, and every fair and manly trait shall add a richer strain to the song.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson (1876)

Matt Jacobson '98 <matt@pharmedica.com>
Branford, CT USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 14:24:36 (EST)

I would like to offer my most sincere sympathy for Brian's family, Kathryn, and all of his friends. Brian was not the kind of guy to go unnoticed, as can be seen by the numerous comments that others have made. He touched a lot of peoples lives and befriended many others. I would like to thank him for the contribution that he made to my life, and the lessons that I have learned from him in our years at Allegheny. He was a vital part of the CS family and will be sorely missed.

Grogan,

You the man...

Morgan

Scott Morgan '98 <scottmorgan98@hotmail.com>
North Babylon, NY USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 14:08:08 (EST)

Knowing Brian made me see that he was one of the most loyal and genuine people I have ever met. He always knew how to make me happy when I was sad, and he knew how to make everyone smile. My thoughts and prayers are with everyone affected by this tragedy. Finally....to Grogan, thanks for sharing two great Meadville summers with me and all of our crazy times. We love you.
Sarah Lloyd <lloyds@alleg.edu>
Meadville, PA USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 13:29:00 (EST)

Many people miss Brian and are putting nice things about him. Lots are putting quotes that they feel are appropriate. I think I'll put a quote that may be more appropriate. Brian, for me, is one the people that I quote most often. During a Bible study our sophomore year, he described college in a way that I will never forget. He said: "Everyone comes to college with a backpack full of books of ideas, all our thoughts, feelings, prejudices, whatever. College is the time in which we can dump out all those books and really take the time to pick and choose which ones we still want to carry and maybe add a few new ones that we've never seen before." I think that statement goes farther than college. There are many times in life when we have to stop and look at what we have in our lives, what is really important. It is times like these when some outside situation comes up and spills the books from our backpacks. Which ones are we going to pick up and which do we leave behind. Thank you Brian for teaching me a lesson that will never leave me, ever.
Michael Hinzman <mikethetall@excite.com>
Beaver Falls, PA USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 13:21:04 (EST)

Grogan,
As many others have done here, I wanted to add a few words to you. I will miss you picking on me, taking me to the bank, forcing me to the bar and Burger King, carting me, Erin, Mich and Kim all over creation, laying on our couch with your dirty shoes on the pillows, letting me put my dirty shoes on your dashboard, watching movies, eating at McKinley's, taking me to get my tongue pierced, and every other little thing that I will never again take for granted with each person I encounter in my life. Thank you for being you, I will miss you always. I know I will see you again, my friend.
Until then,

~Buddie
Kathryn Buddie <buddiek@alleg.edu>
Meadville, PA USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 12:52:19 (EST)

I would like to offer my most sincere sympathy for the family and friends of Brian. Although I never had the opportunity to meet him personally, I pray for all of his family and friends that they may be comforted in this time of tremendous loss.
Dennis Butler <dpbutler@home.com>
Baden, PA USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 12:09:35 (EST)

I did not know Brian well, only through Kathryn and their visits to our home. Certainly the tributes written here speak well of his character and the impact he had on all. As I have watched the Allegheny community grapple with Brian's accident and now mourn his loss, I am struck with sorrow that I did not have the opportunity to know him better. I always knew he was special just by the smile Kathryn always had on her face when she was with him, but now I see that he had a strong affect on all he met. As a parent, I can't imagine a more difficult time and my heart goes out to Brian's parents. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, Kathryn, and all who have been touched by this extraordinary person. May your memories comfort you and keep Brian's spirit alive.
Nancy Frambes <nframbes@alleg.edu>
USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 11:08:32 (EST)

Brian,

I already posted something here for your family and friends, but I wanted to write to you now.

I'm gonna miss you man. We didn't always get along but now I can't believe that you are gone and that I'll never get to say goodbye. Just like so many others, I wish I could have had one last chance to see you and wish you well. I will always remember you walking around in your cowboy hat freshman year, throwing the football with you in the front yard, and complaining about Kordell Stewart together.

I think Rob said it best when he said that God must have needed another soldier...

We'll meet again one day...
Lenn
Lenn Thompson <lt2@zbzoom.net>
Harmony, PA USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 11:03:04 (EST)

I didn't know Brian Grogan well, but he always treated me like we were old friends. Passing him on campus or bumping into him at the Penny Bar, there was always a familiar look in his eyes and smile that said, "Hey Friend, how are you?" It always struck me as odd because I could never recall a moment when perhaps Brian and I had ever sat down and talked extensively or even had had a conversation that he would know me so well. He was just an incredibly friendly person. So, I guess I know him well enough to thank him for that and to say that Allegheny will miss the person who brought the most sincere "hello's" to our campus.

So many times in our lives it seems we have to struggle to bring sense to something that seems so senseless . . . Hold tight to your friends and family, love everybody just a little bit stronger, life is truly precious.

Betsy Murray <emurray@state.pa.us>
Harrisburg, PA USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 10:25:46 (EST)

When I think of Brian, what I remember most is his smile. I don't think I ever saw him not smiling in the few years I knew him. And I can still hear him shout out my last name from the hallway in Bentley the summer we both stayed on campus to work. He was never too busy to help out anybody...and I called on him often while working at the Office Planning and Information. He always dropped everything to lend a hand. I'm sorry he couldn't stay here with us longer. My thoughts and prayers are with Brian's family, Katheryn, and all the brothers of Theta Chi.

Kris Dienes <kdienes@hotmail.com>
Cleveland , OH USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 10:16:29 (EST)

I knew Grogan throughout our years at Allegheny, and I have yet to find someone as caring and compassionate as he. Losing him so suddenly is such a terrible tragedy, but I know that he will be watching over all of whom his spirit touched. He filled us all with hope and happiness, and allowed us the chance to experience true friendship. My prayers and sincerest condolences are with Brian's family, friends, and Kathryn. May the lasting memory of such a dear friend ease your pain!

Brian,
It has been my most honorable privilege to know you! May your memory live on forever in all who knew and loved you, and may your next journey bring you peace and happiness as did your first! Godspeed good friend - I'll miss you!

"I have offer'd my style to every one,
I have journey'd with confident step;
While my pleasure is yet at the full I whisper So long!"
-Walt Whitman
Michael K. Crawford <crawf13@yahoo.com>
Pittsburgh, PA USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 10:10:04 (EST)

My prayers and thoughts are with Brian's family, Kathryn, and friends during this incredible difficult time. Grogan was a person who truly touched my life at Allegheny and I am blessed to have known such a compassionate person. I will always remember the Jamaica trip and the many disscussions we had. He will be sorely missed.

Alison Bramer <bramera@hotmail.com>
Wilton, IA USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 10:06:00 (EST)

My deepest sympathies go out to the Grogan family, all of his friends, and to all of my fellow brothers of the Beta Chi Chapter. Brian was a strong leader for our chapter and a great friend to each of us. Beta Chi and Allegheny has lost a great alum, a great leader, and an exceptional person. Brian will be missed by all! Brothers cherish all the great memories. Lets all strive to be supportive in the Grogan family's time of need. God Bless
Homer Schreckengost <schreckengost@pol.net>
Erie, PA USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 09:57:24 (EST)

My deepest sympathies to a man who touched so many of our lives. Words can not express the grief we feel. Below, is a poem I refer to for reflection when I find myself missing the ones I love. I hope this brings some comfort for you all.

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am the thousand winds that blow;
I am the sunlight on ripened grain;
I am the gentle autumn's rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush,
of quiet birds in circled flight,
I am the soft star that shines at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there, I did not die.

Jane Popelka <Jane_Popelka@rsausa.com>
Pittsburgh, PA USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 09:56:38 (EST)

My deepest sympathies to a man who touched so many of our lives. Words can not express the grief we feel. Below, is a poem I refer to for reflection when I find myself missing the ones I love. I hope this brings some comfort for you all.

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am the thousand winds that blow;
I am the sunlight on ripened grain;
I am the gentle autumn's rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush,

Jane Popelka <Jane_Popelka@rsausa.com>
Pittsburgh, PA USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 09:54:23 (EST)

It's times like these that make myself realize how precious life is.
I also walked that stage with Brian (or Grohgies, as I referred to him.
I took several classes with Brian, and even though we never got very close,
we did share a mutual respect for each other. I send out my prayers and condolences
to his family and to this brothers. This was a good man.
William Brown <wibrown@ltvsteel.com>
Cleveland, OH USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 09:47:44 (EST)

I did not have the privilege of knowing Brian, but his accident and untimely death deeply saddened me. Having three children of my own, the death of a young, promising young man at the beginning of his adult life is the worst nightmare for a parent. What I have learned of Brian from my daughter, Sarah, and from reading all the tributes of his friends, testifies to the kind of young man that Brian was. His death is a great loss to us all.

My continued prayers are for Brian's joyful reunion with God in heaven, for his grieving family, for his love, Kathryn, for his many friends at Allegheny College, and for all you knew and loved him.
Dee Petricca <Deepa509@aol.com>
McMurray, PA USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 08:15:15 (EST)

I would like to send out my thoughts and prayers to Brian's parents, family, friends, Theta Chi brothers and Kathryn. I had the opportunity to get to know Brian senior year. He was a very kind and caring person and always fun to be around. It is a tragedy that such a life with so much living to go, was taken so suddenly. Brian will be missed by all.
Ann Richardson <richara12@aol.com>
Pittsburgh, PA USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 08:06:17 (EST)

On this, my birthday morning, I started my day as I normally do, checking e-mails. My daughter, Meghan, had sent me a note with the link to this site. On a day when we have a tendency to weigh our accomplishments and the quality of our lives (at least you do when the word "birthday" has a "60th" attached to it) the comments preceeding mine certainly give me something to think about. I wonder, even though I've had 3 times the opportunity to do so, if I've made as favorable an impression on those around me as Brian did. I'm not sure. When the sharpness of the hurt and sense of loss dull, I hope Brian's parents take pride in the character and style of their son. My heart goes out to all that knew Brian and are suffering through this loss.
Jim Bredahl <jbredahl@home.com>
Belleville, NJ USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 07:10:17 (EST)

I will never forget the time spent with Grogan in Jamaica. During our many walks carrying mall from one pile to another and our fun times at "the pump", he was just so wonderful to be around. The Grogan Family and Katherine, my thougths and prayers are with you.
Melissa Ninehouser <ninehouser@hotmail.com>
Erie, PA USA - Thursday, March 02, 2000 at 00:15:52 (EST)

I was not as fortunate as many others to have really gotten to know Grogen but I wanted to express my deepest sympathy to his family, friends and Kathryn. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Mandy Treadway <AMT13718@aol.com>
Bay Village, OH USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 23:23:04 (EST)

Grogs,
I guess I took for granted the fact that I would see you a few times a year for who knows how long. That might be the hardest thing for me right now: not being able to say goodbye. When somebody like you touches my life, I feel the need to say thanks. I guess this is the chance. Thanks, man. You truly made a difference on a person who refuses to listen to other people's advice. I forget who wrote it, but there's a rock n roll song in which the chorus rings out "Only the good die young." I guess God needed another soldier. That's the only sense I can make of this. Look out for us, bro.

Thanks,

Rig

Rob Walther <robw3rd@hotmail.com>
Pittsburgh, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 22:24:56 (EST)

When I first met Grogan, he began calling me "Sosko" naturally as if we were old friends. He's impossible not to like right from the start. Although I only knew him briefly I was shocked to hear of his death because I expected to see him at homecomings for years to come- I'm very sad that I won't. It's amazing how many things we take for granted. My sympathy goes out to everyone who was touched by his life.
Amie Sosko <soskoa@hotmail.com>
New York, NY USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 21:22:24 (EST)

Brian will forever live on through the thoughts of the brothers and alumnus of Theta Chi. He truly knew what being a brother was about. It was a pleasure to know and to have worked with him.
Thomas Graham <tgraham@zbzoom.net>
Butler, Pa USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 20:52:09 (EST)

We are the parents of Sarah Hardner who tho't very highly of Brian. We send our deepest sympathies & prayers! Sar enjoyed his friendship. Love, J & K
Jean & Kirk Hardner <hardnej@velocity.net>
Erie, Pa USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 20:16:35 (EST)

I can only wish that I would have had the opportunity to get to know Brother Grogan well. As a freshman and newly initiated brother I missed out on that opportunity. In the past few days I have seen the anguish that my brothers are going through over his death and can only say that any man that would provoke such heartfelt emotion in such great men is surely a fine example of what we all stive to become. My heartfelt sympathy goes out to all who are suffering from this immense loss. Love and Respect.
Eric Heuer <heuere@alleg.edu>
Pittsburgh, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 19:59:38 (EST)

Brian was a co-worker who became a friend to my wife and I. He was twice our moving buddy and we attended the Patty Loveless/Neal McCoy concert with Brian and Taraka Dale. I have these and many other fond memories of Brian. Especially, that no matter what, Brian was always smiling. His attitude towards life and towards people should serve as a model for everyone. God be with us all as Brian is with God.
Chris & Lisa Sherman <csherman@alleg.edu>
Meadville, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 19:41:48 (EST)

I think that these reflections serve
as a true testimony to Brian Grogan,
and everything he accomplished and stood
for. I, along with many others, can
not think of Grogan without picturing a
smile and rememebring a time that we shared
a laugh. It will always be one of my deepest
regrets that Brian had not blessed my life earlier Brian earlier,
however, the memories that we do share
we always burn bright within me. To the
brothers of Theta Chi, the Grogan
family, Katherine, I give my deepest
condolences.
Brianna Esser <esserb@alleg.edu>
Stockholm, NJ USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 19:32:50 (EST)

i knew brian for two years. We both did community service at the soup kitchen, it was amazing to see Brian with all the people. he always had a smile and kind word for everyone. he was a great man that i am proud to have call ed friend. My deepest condolences to his family and all those whose lives brian made brighter.
matt perry <perrym@alleg.edu>
sheldon, vt USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 19:02:40 (EST)

I hadnt seen Brian in over 2 years, and was honestly struck at how I worried when I heard about his accident. Reading these thoughts, written by so many people, representing so many different walks of life, reminds me of why he and I were friends during my time at Allegheny. Brian was one of the few people that could cross boundaries, and did so with an amazing freedom to defy social constictions to show love to people. He didnt care what other people might label you as. He saw people as people, and as such loved them to the fullest of his capability.
Jessica Culley <jessica_culley@hotmail.com>
Glassboro, NJ USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 18:41:28 (EST)

I knew Brian through passing and random acts of kindness that he bestowed on others. I am very grateful for the gift of friendship and happiness that he gave to those of my friends and myself. My thoughts are with his family, friends, and especially my sister Kathryn. He will be deeply missed by all.
Nicole Clarke <clarken@alleg.edu>
Fort Gratiot, MI USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 18:05:37 (EST)

Grogan was a wonderful person and he did so many little things that brightened people's days when they were down. I don't even think that he knew as he was doing these things what an impact that he was making on other people. One memory that I have that I will always hold close to my heart was my pledge formal in 1999. My boyfriend stood me up and I cried through most of the function. Grogan came up to me and made me promise to save him a dance. I had no intention of dancing or anything, yet Grogan pulled me out of my chair and made me dance with him. The song playing was "Every Rose Has Its Thorn." He made me smile and it brightened up what would have been a horrible evening. These little things that seem so simple and yet mean so much are what made everyone love and respect Grogan. His presence will be missed by not only me but by many others as well.
Keysha Moon <moonk@alleg.edu>
Pittsburgh, Pa USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 17:58:43 (EST)

When I first heard of his accident, I hoped that I would be able to make it to visit him in the hospital. I imagined future homecoming events where I would get to see Brian again and share stories of our lives. I wondered about his condition every night. He crossed my mind every day on the way to work. Brothers don't always see eye to eye, as Brian and I often didn't. However, I realize now that I cared for him regardless. He is and always be my brother. I hope his family can be more as ease knowing that Brian has effected so many of our lives. For that, he will be sorely missed.
Robert Buchanan <BTScorpion@aol.com>
Macon, Ga USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 17:50:53 (EST)

Brian Grogan treated me like a little sister. I will never forget the many times that he would go out of his way to make sure that I was smiling. If I was upset, he knew, made a joke, and then reminded me that things aren't so bad. I feel extremely lucky that I got to learn from his beautiful perspective on life. My prayers are of course with everyone Brian has touched, and I thank him for the six mile walk, the long talks on the roof, and the frequent reminders to smile.
Michelle Bossart <bossarm@alleg.edu>
Meadville, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 17:45:39 (EST)

Brian was one of greatest people that I have ever met, and I feel very lucky to be able to call him my friend. He did so much for everyone he knew, and he tought us all a little bit about life and a little bit about eachother. I'll never forget Jamaica, the way he touched thoes people, and the way he touched all of us.
Jennifer Daurora <daurorj@hotmail.com>
Pittsburgh, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 17:41:07 (EST)

There are a lot of things I admire about Brian--especially his honesty and directness. He made a huge, positive difference at Allegheny. I'm going to miss him a lot. My prayers are with all of you.
Dave McInally <dmcinall@alleg.edu>
Meadville, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 17:35:55 (EST)

I was saddened to hear of the untimely death of brian. Thinking of him, I remember the many friendly smiles, pleasant concersations, and fond memories we have shared. Brian contributed greatly to the Allegheny College community, changing not only the campus, but the people who were fortunate enough to know him. I sincerely extend my thoughts and prayers to his family, friends, my sister kathryn, and the brothers of Theta Chi.
Stacey Miller <scmiller@mailcity.com>
Huntingdon, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 17:03:03 (EST)

My deepest symapthy goes out to Brian's family and friends, as well as to the brothers of Theta Chi. I had the opportunity to know Brian casually as most Allegheny students do and will remember him as a kind and fun loving person, with wonderful leadership ability. It is a shame we will never know what might have been, however those who knew him will always remember his smile. God bless you.
Shannon Kearney <shannon.kearney@piog.com>
Boston, MA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 15:56:30 (EST)

Brian was one of the coolest guys I have ever met. He made my years at Allegheny fun and interesting, esspecially my CS classes :) which was pretty hard to do. There is so much I can say about him, but all that really matters is that he was my friend and he will definatly be missed. My heart goes out to all that loved and knew him.
Megan Dillon <dillonmam@juno.com>
Harrisburg , pa USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 15:36:18 (EST)

Having known Brian from our middle school days and then again through our Allegheny ones, I was deeply saddened to hear about his accident and his incredibly untimely death. My memories of him will always warm my heart - from his bright, friendly smile, to his warm, caring ways, Brian was an inspiration to all who had the pleasure of crossing, or sharing his path. My thoughts, prayers and heart go out to Kathryn, his family, friends, and brothers. We will miss you Brian! Thank you for brightening our time here on earth during yours.
Kristy Whisker <kristyw@gwm.sc.edu>
Columbia, SC USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 15:10:41 (EST)

I can honestly say that Brian was one of my most favorite people in four years at Allegheny. He would always yell "Darc" when he spotted me around campus... even if he was walking down North Main and I was coming out of the Post Office... I would always yell "Grogan" right back. It is such a tragedy that he was taken out of this world... he was simply an amazing person. My prayers go out to his family, his girlfriend, the entire brotherhood and every person whose life he touched. We love you, Grogan.
Darcy Kucenic <dkucenic@andrew.cmu.edu>
Pittsburgh, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 15:10:01 (EST)

Brian was a brother to some, but a friend to all. I knew him for only a year, but I will always have fond memories of this great man. Our Prayers go out to all that held Brian dear to them.
Jon Miele <mielej@alleg.edu>
Meadville, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 15:08:30 (EST)

Brian was a remarkable individual and friend. He was the type of individual who never thought twice of sacrificing his time or efforts to those who needed his help. I had only known Brian for about three years, perhaps a little more, but in that short time frame, Brian had a great impact on my life, as well as the lives of many others. I will always cherish the memories I have of Brian. My heart goes out to his family, to Kathryn, and to all of the others that Brian was close to. You have my blessings, as well as those of the brothers of Theta Chi Fraternity.
Matthew Moneck <moneckm@alleg.edu>
McKees Rocks, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 14:54:00 (EST)

I was only able to know Bryan for a year but in that year I was able to learn many things from him about being a better man. Bryan was a great guy and someone you could always count on to talk with. My prayers and thoughts go out to his family, and kathryn and her family and I will always remeber Bryan as a great brother and friend.
Nicholas Gambino <gambinn@alleg.edu>
Meadville,, gPa USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 14:49:27 (EST)

I only knew Brian Grogan for 3 years, but that was more than enough time for him to impact my life. I'll always remember Brian as a guy who was there for me in my time of need. He was a great listener and he offered good advice. He was a role-model. My fondest memories of him are the Spring Break 1998 trip to Panama City, CLC in 1998, our argument over Hot Pockets and futons during senior week 99 (don't ask), and the time he used my car for a jump and he ground the wrong cable. The hot wires began to melt and my car still has the marks to prove it! Brian was a great guy and he will be missed by all. May our memories of him live forever. My thoughts and prayers go out to all of those whose lives were touched by Brian.
Jeffrey Borandi <borandj@alleg.edu>
Monroeville, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 14:35:49 (EST)

I only knew Brian as a very friendly classmate who smiled and said hello to me as we walked past each other on campus. That is the way that I will remember him. My thoughts and prayers are with his family and friends in this difficult time.
Sarah Gilbertson (Davitt) <sgilbert@gwu.edu>
Washington , DC USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 14:34:47 (EST)

My memories of Brian date all the way back to the fifth grade. We were classmates together from middle school through high school graduation. Beezer, I have no idea why he was given that knickname, was one of the kindest and most talented young men I had the honor of knowing. He always had a smile for me in the high school hall and a dance for me in the middle school cafatorium. My heart and my prayers go out to his family and to all he held dear in his life.
Stacey Weber <webersa@hotmail.com>
Columbus, OH USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 14:20:02 (EST)

Brian was one of the kindest, most sincere people I met on this campus in the past four years. He always had a big smile and something funny to say to me...and he hardly knew me at all! He was an extraordinary human being.
Jackie Skroupa <skroupj@alleg.edu>
Cheswick, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 14:01:34 (EST)

My deepest sympathy goes out to Brian's family, friends, and Theta Chi brothers. I was shocked and incredibly saddened as I learned of Brian's passing, and my heart goes out to those who were closest to him. Brian was an intelligent, caring, and admirable person who worked very hard for the things he cared about the most. God Bless You, Brian.
Michelle Victain <victainm@aehn2.einstein.edu>
Philadelphia, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 13:46:56 (EST)

On behalf of myself and the Brothers of the Pennsylvania Omega Chapter of Sigma Alpha Epsilon I wish to convey our most sincere thoughts and prayers to the family and friends of Brian Grogan.
Mark Bishop <bishopm@alleg.edu>
North Ridgeville, OH USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 13:45:33 (EST)

Brian was an excellent man, one who commanded respect from those who worked with him. It is unfortunate that I did not get to know him personally, however, as the messages before as well as the numerous messages that will come after, it is obvious that his memory will live on in the thoughts and hearts of many. My support and condolences to those that grieve for him. He will be remembered.
Judson Wible ... <wiblej@eden.rutgers.edu>
New Brunswick, NJ USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 13:45:26 (EST)

Brian lived the life of a typical student,
probably unaware of the great impact he had
on the lives of others. The outpouring of
affection during his illness and death is a testament to the ability of one person to
influence a community for the better.
John Patrick Colatch <jcolatch@alleg.edu>
Meadville, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 13:40:49 (EST)

As a Freshman and newly initiated brother, I never had the honor of knowing Brian personally. Seeing how much he meant to this fraternity and its members, would have made the honor that much more great. I'm deeply sorrowful that I missed out on that honor. My sympathies go out to all the family and friends of Brother Brian Grogan. His legacy will forever live on in the hearts of all the brothers of Theta Chi fraternity, and in the hearts of all the individuals that he touched. Love and respect.
Andrew Codelka <codelka@alleg.edu>
Pittsburgh, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 13:29:42 (EST)

I could always count on Brian for a smile. I think that's what I'll miss the most. I'm grateful for the time I was able to spend with him. Those memories will not be forgotten. My thoughts and prayers go out to Kathryn, the entire Grogan family, and to the Brotherhood.
Scott Conroy <conroys17@excite.com>
Pittsburgh, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 13:28:24 (EST)

A young man of integrity, solid character and compassion. Brian cared deeply for our chapter and contributed selflessly at all times. From the times we butted heads over house issues to the trip down to Florida for spring break, the many experiences and memories shared with Brian flood my mind right now. Why on earth he was taken from this world so soon is a tragic mystery. My deepest symapthy goes to his family and other loved ones... Follow the light, Brian, and remember we all love you!
David Veschi <veschi@hotmail.com>
Fort Hood , TX USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 13:24:14 (EST)

As an alum who never had the chance to meet Brian in person I can only offer my thoughts and prayers for his family. As the active chapter has shown so well in the past few years, Brotherhood goes way beyond the undergraduate years. We are all saddened and lessened by the loss of Brian.
Kurt Holmes Beta Chi '88 <kuholmes@davidson.edu>
Davidson, NC USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 13:09:07 (EST)

When looking at individuals, we possess hidden traits which might not be shown to all.
Brian was a brother of humility and patience, of few words yet of much concern. Out of such a humble man, a brillance of faith always shown.
From the time I met him as a freshmen to being president, Brian's firm handshake and warm smile always welcomed me. He was a true example of brotherhood.
Michael Ruk <chartes7@hotmail.com>
Oakmont , PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 13:06:41 (EST)

My deepest sympathies go out to all of Brian's friends, family, and all my felow brothers. Brian lived a good life and it is a tragedy that it was cut short. He touched the lives of many people and as those who knew him were well aware, he'd so anything he could for ANYONE in their time of need. I know I will never forget Brian and I know he'll probably never forget any of us.
Lenn Thompson <lt2@zbzoom.net>
Harmony, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 13:04:02 (EST)

Brian was one of the first people I met freshman year, and was one of the last people I saw after graduation. I count him among my best friends in my life, although we always tried to act more distant than we really were. We spent hours arguing over who-cleans-what as roomates, and hours more over house policy during his term as President. I can't believe he's gone. My sympathy goes out to all who's lives he touched. I miss you buddy...
Mark Woodcock <ifrinn@email.com>
San Francisco, CA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 12:33:51 (EST)

May Brian's time here remind all of us how valuable but fleeting life can be and how we must make the most of the time we are given. He will be missed, but his memory will live on.
Richard Cook <rcook@alleg.edu>
Meadville, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 12:29:32 (EST)

Grogan, as he will always be known in my mind, was a true inspiration for mankind. Warm, compassionate, funny, intelligent, are words that only begin to describe the amazing person that he was and will be for eternity. I will always cherish the footprints he left on my life, wishing there could be more.
Kathryn Buddie <buddiek@alleg.edu>
Meadville, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 12:13:46 (EST)

The passing of Brian has touch my heart deeply. I hold fond memories of him in my heart and wish only the greatest comfort upon Kathryn, their families and friends in knowing that his life will go on forever in our hearts and with God in heaven.
Beth Williams <williae2@alleg.edu>
Meadville, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 12:13:01 (EST)

If there was a man that I could model my life after, Brian you would be the mold. I love the memories that you have left behind, and your legacy that will continue to touch us all. Thanks for being my friend and brother. "Love and Respect!"
Michael R. Newell <newellm@alleg.edu>
Sarver, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 12:07:19 (EST)

My deepest sympathies go out to the family and friends of Brian. His friendship and kindness will forever be remembered in my thoughts and in my heart.
John Lunz <jlunz+@pitt.edu>
Pittsburgh, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 12:01:04 (EST)

Robin and I have been deeply struck by Brian's death. Brian and I spent countless hours together in our men's bible study, youth group, campus ministry activities, and together in my office and home. I take comfort to know that Brian is in a better place now, but he will be sorely missed here on earth. Brian's life is a true testimony to to power of Christ and the impact one person can have on so many lives. Till we meet again by brother and friend, George Saylor, Allegheny Campus Ministry, 1994-1999.
George Saylor <rsaylor@hope.gordon.edu>
Wenham, MA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 11:53:41 (EST)

I was fortunate enough to know Grogan since I was a freshman. I can honestly say that he was the best all around person that I came into contact with while at Allegheny. He was a great friend that was always there for anyone who needed anything. He will be dearly missed by many, and especially by me.
Blake McGourty <mcgourt1737@duq.edu>
Pittsburgh, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 11:40:04 (EST)

Those of us that spent countless hours with Brian in Alden Hall will never forget his smile, laughter and approach to life. My prayers go out to his family and loved ones.
Russ Akers <rusty@nadswear.com>
Erie, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 08:51:53 (EST)

I'll always remember Brian as a thoughtful, dedicated and caring person... he was a reminder to me of what is so special about Allegheny students. He will be missed.
Allan Blattner <ablattne@alleg.edu>
Meadville, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 08:26:26 (EST)

As advisor to Beta Chi, I had nothing but wonderful and productive associations with Brian. My family 's prayers go out to his loved ones.
Marty Goldberg <mgoldber@alleg.edu>
Meadville, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 08:17:47 (EST)

The events of the past days and weeks have been tragic, yet we will only become stronger as brothers and individuals to have gone through this. Brian would be proud of us and we in turn must give our strength and love to those in need.
Gabe Mazefsky <mazefsg@alleg.edu>
Meadville, PA USA - Wednesday, March 01, 2000 at 03:52:43 (EST)

Even though Brian has passed on, he will live on forever in our thoughts and memories. Brian gave his heart to this fraternity and we will never forget the example he set forth trying to build a better man. We will always love and remember you Brian!!!
Bernie Clark <clarkc@alleg.edu>
Meadville, PA USA - Tuesday, February 29, 2000 at 20:55:16 (EST)

Although Brian will be dearly missed, the fond memories of him in this house will live on forever.
Dave Mancuso <mancusd@alleg.edu>
Meadville, PA USA - Tuesday, February 29, 2000 at 20:43:34 (EST)

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